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Some others hated her voice but I felt she was perfect with just enough “cum fuck me” in it to make those words and phases realistic. It certainly was an incomplete list of phrases and terms but lots to warm up a new cummer or fire up an old hand. We use them all the time, every day, mostly without giving them much thought at all. We take for granted that they’re here at our disposal whenever we need them. But if you’ve ever wished you could communicate more effectively, words are the place to start.

• In this post, we’re breaking down a list of dirty things to say to your partner when you’re feeling extra naughty.
• After all, now you can actually blurt out those perverse thoughts that run through your mind when you’re banging your woman, and turn her on at the same time.
• Even if you giggle, or mess up a “dirty phrase,” if this is authentically you, it’s going to be way hotter than some automatic, shake-and-bake phrase that you just regurgitate.
• Consensual spanking and light bondage can add an intense edge to your sexual talk.

More explicit dirty talk examples and dirty text messages for your lover:

Remember last night when we [insert sexual activity]? Sean is the editor of Bad Girls Bible and responsible for recruiting our team of sex and relationship experts. Now imagine saying the same thing, “I’m so bummed that we’re on a plane, I really want to feel your lips on my pussy right now,” while slowly running your fingers up his inside leg. Then after saying it, you slowly pull back and make eye contact with him while smirking at him. That’s why I was delighted when I came across the AskReddit thread titled “Ladies, what do you want to hear when he talks dirty?

Questions for playtime:

Guys are more singular in their focus, whereas women can hold many things in their mind at once when it comes to sexual arousal. Most people feel completely embarrassed and ridiculous at the thought of trying it, because they’ve never been taught the basic guidelines. Just communicate exactly what happened or what you’re feeling and ask for what you want (or need) to happen next. “Sometimes it’s easier to get started when the ideas are coming from an outside source,” she says. Combine the below sexting examples to craft the sexiest virtual sex convo you or your partner(s) have ever had. Over text, as opposed to IRL, you have the gift of time.

Sexy things to say to your partner.

• Think about what turns you on and create a list of words, scenarios, or fantasies that arouse you.
• For some, this journey might benefit from engaging in deep inner work, or sexual therapy.
• The app is completely secure and doesn’t show your messages until you put in your password.
• Even this conversation, I’ve derived something out of it personally with you and it hasn’t been all serious really.

If you decide to test out a new conversation topic, take it slow. Ease into it, relax, and don’t feel pressured. Dirty talk might feel awkward, especially at first, but you’ll find your rhythm with time and practice. – And, if you need to feel more safety and permission to dirty talk, have a quick conversation with your partner beforehand to express your intentions. Now that you’ve got a good sense of what you can try, it’s time to test drive a few lines.

Make a concentrated effort to flirt with your spouse, even when you aren’t physically together. Don’t underestimate how powerful it is to know your spouse is thinking about you (and thinking how sexy you are) even when you aren’t around. Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT, recommends using your senses to describe what you’re feeling, seeing, smelling, tasting, and hearing. Here are some of Wright’s suggestions for what to say. Nicoletta Heidgger, a sexologist and host of the Sluts and Scholars podcast, also suggests reading or listening to erotica to get some inspiration.

Not only will you make her feel horny while away from you, it’ll also increase the anticipation for a great time later. Have a safe word or signal to let your partner know if they say something that makes you uncomfortable. Knowing you can stop at any time—no questions asked—makes trying new things less scary.

Then, start by whispering softly in your partner’s ear. Let your partner get used to you saying certain phrases. You can use explicit language and special words to build up to more and more intimate moments. Don’t worry about getting it right or hitting the mark every time. In Dr. Jansen’s experience, how something lands often has more to do with delivery. It’s better to take a leap of faith than appear too tentative, trusting of course that your partner will let you know if you’ve crossed a line.

Sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. By Zuva SevenZuva Seven is a freelance writer, editor, and founder of An Injustice! —an intersectional publication based on Medium—who writes along the intersections of race, sexuality, mental health, and politics.